Breaking Confidentiality
By John Kim, LMFT · The Angry Therapist
Published by Soulprint™ Media
Breaking Confidentiality
Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You
John Kim, LMFT · The Angry Therapist
A licensed therapist breaks his industry’s biggest rule, revealing the attraction, bias, jealousy, and boredom behind closed doors, and why imperfect humans help people best.
Pre-order opens October 13
ABOUT THE BOOK
John Kim was fresh off a divorce when he became a therapist. He traded the office for a coffee shop, a tucked-in shirt for tattoos and a motorcycle, and professional distance for casual relationships built on shared humanity. In Breaking Confidentiality, Kim gives an honest account of what most therapists are too scared to reveal, or would lose their licenses if they admitted. Chapter by chapter, he exposes what really happens behind closed doors and proves that what people need most is not someone to fix their problems. It’s someone to sit beside them, present, imperfect, and human.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
John Kim, LMFT, is The Angry Therapist: a licensed therapist, speaker, and author of nine books, including the bestsellers I Used To Be A Miserable F*ck and Single. On Purpose. Featured in The New York Post, NPR, Armchair Expert, and Vice. Breaking Confidentiality is his first book with Soulprint Media, the publisher and content studio he co-founded.
This book and its related content are for information and entertainment. They are not therapy, and they are not a substitute for care from a licensed professional. Client stories are composites with identifying details changed.
“When I first became a therapist, I wanted to tuck my shirt in, nod at the right times, and be neutral. That was what I thought this work was supposed to look like. I didn’t plan on going rogue or questioning the very system that trained me.
But the more I tried to be that version of a therapist, the more something in me started to die. So I started doing the one thing they told us not to do. I stopped trying to be this polished version of a therapist and started being a person who also struggles, who also questions, who also gets it wrong sometimes. And everything changed.”
FROM THE BOOK
Chapters Include
What We Don’t Say Out Loud
What Therapists Notice, Think, and Feel
- Therapists Can Be Just as Fucked Up as the People They’re Helping
- Yes, We Googled You (And your ex)
- That Time I Fantasized About Being Rescued by a Client
- I Made Your Session About Me
- Yes, We Talk About You to Our Friends and Partners
- I’ve Had to Fart So Bad I Stopped Listening
- I Didn’t Like You as a Person
- There Are Many Therapists Who Shouldn’t Be Therapists
The Charged Room
Attraction, Bias, Power, and Emotional Risk
- I Didn’t Take a Client Because I Wanted to Date Her
- I’ve Secretly Rooted for Your Relationship to Fail
- The Client That Made Me Fear for My Life
- You’ve Made Me Question My Own Relationship
- I Took a Client’s Side Because I Liked Them More Than Their Partner
- I Fell in Love with My Own Therapist
The Fracture
Burnout, Resentment, Limits, and Failure
- I Quit Mid-Session
- I’ve Been Jealous of Your Life
- I’ve Wanted to End Therapy Before You Did
- Not Every Client Gets My Best Self
- The Session That Broke Me in Half
The Attachments
What Therapists Carry for You
- Nobody Actually Listens to You
- Sometimes Therapy Is Just Paying for a Friend
- Your Progress Feels Like My Progress
- The Client I Still Think About
- Therapy Isn’t Always About Healing
- I’ve Wondered If I’m Even Helping Anyone